BBW Date Tips - How to Meet Your Dream Plus-size Partner

March 18, 2021
BBW Date Tips - How to Meet Your Dream Plus-size Partner

Here are your top tips for dating a plus-size partner, and making the most of your BBW dating site membership!

As a bigger person, you have probably spent your life trying to make yourself look smaller, and that stops right here. Relationships are all about respect, love and trust, no matter what your clothes size.

The Perks of BBW Dating Sites

We firmly believe that if you're plus-size and looking for a relationship, you're best off using a dedicated dating site that caters to BBW singles. This is because mainstream dating attaches a stigma to being larger than life, making it a real challenge to find authentic partners.

Some of the best bits about being a BBW date site member are:

  • Like-minded people surround you.
  • There are lots of opportunities to get involved in the BBW community.
  • You can ask questions or share dating experiences.
  • Everybody on the site is plus-size or wants to date somebody who is.
  • Your weight doesn't become a factor.

When you find your tribe, you feel right at home - and for the vast majority of BBW singles looking for love, it's best found in a dedicated date site.

Top Tips for BBW Dating

There isn't anything different to bear in mind about dating a big guy, or a larger lady than with any other date - but here are our best tips to make sure that you make the most of BBW dating, and the dates you might have lined up!

Don't put yourself in the corner.

You get it; you're big. And...?

There is no need to hide away, disguise your size or dress any particular way. Being yourself is an essential part of dating. 

Put on your fanciest outfit, order whatever you want, and dance the night away. Confidence is sexy, and there is no reason to shy away from letting your date experience your personality at its finest.

Don't be afraid of rejection.

Easy to say, less easy to do! The reality is that we're all someone's 'type' - and that someone isn't going to be everyone! If you don't try, you'll never know, so take the plunge and create that dating profile.

Nothing changes if nothing changes, so the risk of not finding someone special is dwarfed by the possibility that you might.

Remember what you want.

If you've spent time on mainstream dating sites and have been rejected, or even received unkind messages, it's easy to jump at the first person that contacts you, and finds you attractive just the way you are!

However, you need to find somebody who you like, not just somebody who likes you. Write down what you need from a relationship as your essentials, and stick to them.

Know your qualities

When your size is no longer worth discussing, you have the freedom of talking about what you bring to a relationship, and your value as a whole person.

This is both brilliant, and nerve-wracking if you're used to people asking what you eat, and instead need to delve into conversations about your emotions, passions and experiences!

Somebody wants to know what you think, so share it - and never be afraid of saying the wrong thing, or putting off a potential date. You are who you are, and the right person will accept that.

Never go out with a date who doesn't want to show you off.

Here's where those stigmas start raising their ugly heads again; some dates might think you're lovely, and yet want to go somewhere out of town, away from their area, or where they definitely won't know anybody.

If that happens, run as fast as you can (or call a taxi if we're being practical!). You don't want to date somebody who doesn't want to show you off - and don't settle for anything less than an authentic experience.

Have fun

Dating can feel highly pressured, but it's meant to be fun and enjoyable, so make sure you are having fun - or move along to the next!

When you've been chatting with someone online for a while, you'll likely have a decent idea about where you're compatible, and what interests you share - so opt for an activity or a location where you feel comfortable, safe, and don't feel full of nerves.

Not every date is going to turn into something long-term, and that is perfectly normal and ok. The more you date, the better you get at dating. Just in the same way, the more you interact with online dating sites, the more confident you become, and the more skilful your flirting becomes!

Report the spammers

Yes, they exist, and yes, it is annoying. However, when you join an online dating site, you know that there is always a slim possibility that you will come across someone who sends you unwanted, explicit, or trashy messages.

The only response is to delete them, report them, and move along - because finding your happiness is so much more important than letting junk messages detract from your online dating experience.

Judge not, lest thee be judged

We all think we're accepting, open individuals, but at the same time if somebody messages you who you'd never want to date, doesn't fall anywhere near to your preferences, or you think probably doesn't want to date you - take a minute.

It can take a lot of guts to message somebody if you think they might not be interested, so make sure to take a little time to think about whether you want to respond, and whether you can gently let someone down rather than just consigning them to the trash box.

Online dating is addictive because the thrill of flirting is exciting and fun! However, we have to remember that behind every profile is a single person who just wants to find love, so treating each other with equal respect makes the site a much happier place to visit.

Lauren Edwards-Fowle
Lauren Edwards-Fowle
Lauren is a freelance writer passionate about how we develop rewarding experiences, and overcoming the barriers we face to living our best lives. Lauren writes regularly about the modern world of dating, relationships, parenthood, and social dynamics.