How to Write an Online Dating Profile for a Man

June 3, 2021
Online Dating For Man

Dating profiles are tricky old things - you want it to be sexy, but not too much.

Authentic, but not generic.

Inspired, but in 130 characters or less...?!

It's hard enough, and for guys using Hobart dating services, it can be even trickier!

I'm not sure why that is, but perhaps women find it more comfortable to express their relationship aspirations.

In this day and age, we're no strangers to how stereotypes and gender imbalances can make men feel reluctant to bare their souls (especially in the shark tank that is the internet!).

So, we thought it was high time we published a blog, purely for men, with advice about writing a brilliant dating profile that will get you noticed on those free dating sites Perth that are so popular.

Mistakes Men Make in Dating Profiles

Let's kick off with some of the common issues and mistakes we see dotted throughout online dating sites, nearly always on guy's profiles.

  • They're horribly generic.

STOP! Have you used the phrases 'fun-loving' or 'active' anywhere in your profiles? Trust me, delete it.

Generic phrases don't give women any insight into who you are - they say you've filled in a box for the sake of getting to your matches and aren't any basis to work out whether we have anything in common.

  • They're way too much!

Sometimes, it goes the other way - and it's intense! Profiles that list all the wrongs any girl has ever done, how awful they feel about their ex, being dumped - it all sounds way too much like a man who needs a big hug from their Mum, and not someone I'm keen to date.

  • They sound arrogant.

Yep, I know, there's a very fine line between confidence and arrogance. But, likely, some of the real douchey profiles you might see on the Hobart dating services are wonderful men!

However, when they talk about their earnings, conquests, desirability, or list their demands from any woman they'll consider being seen in public with, run for the hills.

Now we've run through these three common mistakes, let's get to the tips!

Online Profile Advice for Men on Free Dating Sites Perth

If you're finding it tough to write a great dating profile, the first tip is not to worry!

Most people find it hard talking about themselves, or accentuating only their best bits, so it's natural to find the task a bit awkward.

Here are some of our best tips for male dating profiles:

  • Show, don't tell! Not sure how to make your passion for Chinese cooking and football blend nicely into your personality overview? Upload some photos! Visuals are easier to engage with.
  • Keep it simple. Your profile doesn't need to be a considerable essay, so just keeping it straightforward and leaving the rest to their imagination is fine. Provided you've included information about yourself, what you're looking for, and what your personality is like, that's plenty.
  • Don't try to be too cool. It's easy to think you need to be slick, smart, and super-hip, but don't try and fake it online if you're not in real life. Women looking for relationships will not care if you've got the latest Yeezys, but they will care if you are a great person.
  • Be funny, if you're funny! Just like being cool, it's absolutely fine to make your profile a little funny, but ONLY if that's what you're really like!
  • Your profile is for you. One of the reasons we find profiles so challenging to write is that we're worried about what other people will think (yeah, that's the point of online dating, right?). The reality is, what you feel about yourself matters a lot more than anyone else, so if you're confident it's what you want to say, don't micro-analyse it.

Nearly all of these tips seem obvious, but it's so essential to spend a bit of time writing an authentic profile that's a true reflection of you, as anything else will come off as fake.

Writing a Dating Profile Subject Line

If you've got your profile nailed down, you might be done - or you might be hit with a requirement to come up with a strapline, title, or introduction sentence that throws the whole thing back into chaos!

Try this:

Your name + what you're looking for = great profile title

Super simple, yet effective! Here are some examples:

  • Sports lover looking for a Blue Jays fan to be my plus-one at every match!
  • Travelling man seeking a wild woman to join me on crazy adventures.
  • Sometimes funny guy looking for a girl who likes to laugh till her cheeks ache.

See? It's pretty easy, and you don't need to spend hours agonising over what to write.

Choosing a Male Dating Profile Screen Name

The majority of the time, your real name is the only name you should be using online!

However, many dating sites have requirements around the number of characters, or you might feel more comfortable with a screen name.

Many more won't let you use your real name (or that alone) since they might have thousands of other Pete's, David's or James's on the site.

Again, there's usually a quick hack to solve this:

  • Most dating sites accept special characters, so add a few @, ! or &s to your screen name, and you can often use your actual name, with a few embellishments to make it unique.
  • If you can't or don't want to use your name, draw on something you've highlighted in your profile. Taking those three examples above, they might be BlueJaysLover999!, SingleTravellingGuy123, and FunnySteve66. Simple, easy, and compatible with your profile introduction.

Just as with the content on your profile, remember you're an adult! Cringey names like FartBoy55 or BigKnobAndy are NOT going to snag you a date!

Finally, it's best to write your profile when you're relaxed and don't feel any pressure to bang out some random text to fill in the profile blanks.

It's always best to be authentic and genuine, so come back to it when you're not in a rush, and the results will be a million times better!

Lauren Edwards-Fowle
Lauren is a freelance writer passionate about how we develop rewarding experiences, and overcoming the barriers we face to living our best lives. Lauren writes regularly about the modern world of dating, relationships, parenthood, and social dynamics.