Dating & Faith - How to Find Compatible Christian Partners

March 18, 2021
Dating & Faith - How to Find Compatible Christian Partners

When your faith is an integral part of your life, and you're looking for a meaningful partner to share it with, it's essential to find somebody who values, appreciates and respects your Christian lifestyle.

You have a few options:

  1. Meeting people through your church. But - what if you already know everybody in the congregation, and there aren't any eligible singles that you can see yourself dating?
  2. You meet people through friends and your social circle. But - what if you've been on enough bad first dates to last a month of Sunday's, or you live in a small town and don't want to have the disappointment of any more well-meant but misdirected blind dates?
  3. Online dating - access to meet single Christians from anywhere in the world, on your terms, in your own time. Sounds perfect, right! 

Christian dating has grown enormously in popularity, as more singles of all age groups realise that to find that special someone, it's necessary to take romance into your own hands.

Little is as satisfying as being proactive about improving your life, and your chances for love - and here are our tips to make your Christian dating journey everything you have dreamed of!

Using Christian Faith-Based Dating Sites

General dating sites are great, and most give you the option of setting important criteria such as your faith, or your preferences in your ideal partner. There's no reason this can't work - however, there are a lot of sites with members looking for casual hook-ups, and it can feel intimidating and uncomfortable.

To be in the best position to find a partner who shares your faith - or who respects it if you're not decided on whether a shared faith is essential to you - Christian dating sites are a great place to start.

  • All the members will share your faith, so you don't need to make a big deal out of it, or keep explaining the values that guide you when it comes to romance and dating.
  • You won't need to filter through all the casual daters to find what you're looking for.
  • There are lots of opportunities to network and connect with users - so you often find yourself meetings lots of new people in the community.
  • You can have a giggle sharing your mainstream dating experiences and how many times your matches have been so very wrong!

Faith-based dating sites work just like any other, with the matching systems, games and private chats to make the experience a fun one; so jump on in and give it a try!

Never Hiding Your Values

Whether or not you follow a specific religion or are a member of a church, we all have values and ethics that we hold dear. It's tempting not to mention our faith, or to be vague about it - in the hopes of meeting someone so committed that they'll fall in love with us and be 100% on board with whatever our needs are!

The world doesn't quite work like that, and you should embrace and be proud of the morals that guide you, and the faith that forms such a vital part of your character.

Make sure to state your faith when you sign up with a new online dating site. Never think it will limit your matches; you aren't going to be interested in dating anybody who doesn't respect your faith, so it's best to make these things clear right from the outset!

YOU decide who you want to chat to, and whom you want to date.

If it matters to you that your partner shares your faith, include it in your preferences. If you need to meet people who share your belief systems, this has to be part of your essential criteria - to make sure your matches are meaningful, and your chats are authentic.

Considering Mixed Faith Dating

It's a tricky one, as many Christians feel that we have to date somebody within the same faith - but remember that blended beliefs aren't a taboo, and it's more about your values and lifestyles being compatible than about being a member of a particular church.

Of course, if you feel that it's essential to share a faith, then that's equally important - what you think matters, not anybody else’s perspective!

This is something to consider before you start your new dating adventure. It's important to decide first because we've seen it happen so often; if you waver on what you really need, it's too easy to be sucked into a chat with someone who makes your heart beat faster. 

Unfortunately, if they don't meet your criteria, it's never going to be a long-term relationship, so being upfront can save a lot of heartache later on.

You can choose whatever you feel is right:

  • Only wanting to date partners who share your faith.
  • Being open to a mixed-faith relationship.
  • Connecting with singles that don't share your faith, but do share your values.
  • Being open to dating partners who do not follow a religion.

Remember, there's no right answer here; everybody is their own person, and their dating journey needs to take their unique path.

Finding Long-term Relationship Sites

Particularly for young people, hook-up culture feels predominant in our society and permeates throughout entertainment.

That's fine for adults who want to find casual dates - but as a Christian single looking for commitment, you can feel like a fish out of water looking for long-term connections rather than a quick weekend fling.

The best solution is to register with websites and apps that focus on long-term relationships. There are plenty out there; while the registration process will likely take a little longer, to fill out all those personality quizzes, it's well worth taking the time to stand the best chance of finding a relationship that fits with what you need.

Lauren Edwards-Fowle
Lauren Edwards-Fowle
Lauren is a freelance writer passionate about how we develop rewarding experiences, and overcoming the barriers we face to living our best lives. Lauren writes regularly about the modern world of dating, relationships, parenthood, and social dynamics.