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Mythbusting: Christian Dating Rules

September 15, 2020
Mythbusting: Christian Dating Rules

As a dating niche, Christian dating is growing. Perhaps that is because more UK singles are focusing on being true to their beliefs when seeking out a relationship, or maybe it is because mainstream dating sites have proven not to cater well to those looking for a specific type of partner!

Whatever the reason, there are a few notions about Christian dating that just don't ring true - and could potentially be putting off eligible singles from finding the happiness we all deserve.

Let's take a moment to clarify what it means to date as a Christian, the most important things to remember if you're dating a religious partner, and how you can get the best out of a Christina dating site.

The UK Christian Dating Pool

Ok, so the first thing to point out is that there are plenty of singles who identify as having a faith. 

Public perception is often that few people care that much about maintaining their beliefs - but that simply isn't true.

It's never easy to put a number on. Still, the latest data from the Office for National Statistics published in February 2020 estimates that around 59% of people in England and 58% in Wales identify as being Christian.

That means that:

  • If you're Christian, you DO NOT need to use mainstream dating sites to find a partner if you feel uncomfortable.
  • You don't have to set aside your belief systems to be able to find a successful relationship (and should never consider it).
  • Although many people may not talk about religion as a central aspect of their lives, the majority do identify with faith-based morals.
  • You aren't limited to members of your local congregation and indeed might find fulfilling friendships as well as potential romantic partners online.

Now that's cleared up, and we can see that there is a large potential Christian dating pool, let's talk about what it means to be Christian.

Christian Relationships

The first thing to note if you're not a Christian yourself, or haven't explored the diversity within the religion, is that you can find multiple branches of Christianity.

All read the same Bible, have the same fundamental morals and share the same belief.

However, the types of church, style of celebration and specific focuses within Christianity may vary.

Christian churches include traditional and modern denominations, and those who identify as independent - but follow the same Bible:

  • Orthodox
  • Roman Catholic
  • Protestant
  • Anglican
  • Presbyterian
  • Methodist
  • Baptist
  • Church of England

One of the challenges for young Christians looking to find love is that they may feel restricted to their particular church, and perhaps not recognise that there may be thousands of local people practising the same faith, although within a different church.

Your decision about this is entirely personal - some Christians are not bothered about finding a compatible partner who isn't religious or a practising Christian at all, provided they respect their beliefs and follow the same standards of ethics and morals.

Other Christians might feel that they would only be comfortable dating a Christian who attends the same church as they do.

However, it's always worth keeping your options open and understanding how diverse and vibrant the Christian community really is.

Compare Christian Dating Sites

Rules for Dating a Christian

Again, we're preaching to the converted if you are a practising Christian, but for those who aren't, plenty of singles are attracted to dating somebody of faith and might need a helping hand.

This may because they are seeking a long-term, committed and loving relationship, and while not a churchgoer themselves, are drawn to the relationship standards of Christianity, or perhaps are interested in learning more about faith and applying the same ways of living to their own lifestyle.

In short, the 'rules' depend on the individual, and some Christians might be devout and follow the teachings of the Bible to the letter, whereas others may live a different lifestyle and yet apply the same teaching in principal to their actions.


  • Christian singles do not have sex before marriage.
  • As such, many marry young and tend to start families earlier in life than non-Christians.
  • Some singles are okay with kissing and cuddling, whereas other more traditional followers prefer to avoid any intimacy before marriage.
  • There is absolutely no reason you cannot date, provided you are both clear on the boundaries that the other is comfortable with - romance still matters!
  • Sexual intimacy is reserved for marriage when a couple has joined together in a church in the eyes of God; the specific 'rules' about what that constitutes is a personal decision.
  • Some Christians are happy to date others from different churches; others prefer to only date singles from the same denomination, e.g. Catholic or Baptist.

It's always worth remembering that religion is about your personal relationship with God and that this will be different for every person. We're all unique, have our own set of morals and beliefs, and equally, every Christian will have their own ideas about how to apply their faith to their life and relationships.

The Benefits of Christian Dating Sites

More and more Christian singles have started using online, faith-based dating sites - and it's not hard to see why!Singles on these sites will always be seeking commitment in the long-term - although that does not mean they're planning to marry the first person they date!

This is another big misconception in the non-Christian public; Christians don't have to get married at all if they don't wish to, and are unlikely to do so until they have met the right person.  If you go on a first date with a Christian single, you'll need to have respect for their faith, and perhaps discuss what religion means to their life. However, if you don't find a spark of mutual attraction, it's just as possible as with any other date that they'll decide not to make it a second.Mainstream dating sites can often veer towards hookup culture, which isn't going to gel with a person of faith. There is also the awkwardness of having to bring up sex and intimacy on a first date if you're not sure if a new date is religious or not, which is akin to pouring water on the flames of attraction before you've even got to know each other.

Christian dating sites work, since you know that everybody on the site holds the same belief as you do. Therefore you're starting from a position of compatibility and shared understanding, which is the best way to lay the foundations for a happy partnership.

Lauren Edwards-Fowle
Lauren Edwards-Fowle
Lauren is a freelance writer passionate about how we develop rewarding experiences, and overcoming the barriers we face to living our best lives. Lauren writes regularly about the modern world of dating, relationships, parenthood, and social dynamics.