The Romance of Golden Years - Mature Dating Tips

July 28, 2020
Mature Dating sites

Online dating is no longer the playing field of only the young; increasingly, seniors are finding that Internet date sites offer an incredible opportunity to meet new people, and inject some passion into their golden years!

Let's take a look at how senior dating works, and everything you need to know about signing up to senior dating sites.

Senior Dating Websites

First things first; you are well-advised to stick to senior dating sites. I can hear what you're thinking - that they're full of stuffy singles and you're looking for somebody young at heart!

Mature dating sites are just as vibrant, sexy and exciting as any other - the big plus, though, is that you won't have to wade through thousands of twenty-somethings to find someone you'd genuinely consider dating.

Most dating sites have some sort of premium subscription - usually optional - so if you're considering paying to join a dating site, you'll get far better value for money if you choose a website dedicated to your age group!

Dating Acronyms

Dating online is a lot like using social media, or texting your grandkids; everybody uses abbreviations and acronyms (who writes in proper English these days?).

If you're feeling like a fish out of water, it's a great idea to brush up on the terminology in advance, so you're able to start flirting like a pro!

Everyday things you'll find on Internet dating sites include:

  • Senior dating - usually refers to singles around 50 years old and above.
  • IM or DM - stand for an instant message or direct message - basically just a private chat between you and somebody else!
  • Chat room - an open forum where everybody can contribute. Most chat rooms have a specific topic or subject to talk about.
  • Likes or winks - sending a free heart on a photo or post to indicate that you like it, or are interested in that person's profile.
  • GSOH - good sense of humour.
  • ISO - in search of.
  • NBN - never been married.

You'll also find that almost all dating sites have a FAQs section (frequently asked questions) or a help page, so if you get stuck or need a hand, there should be resources to help you out!

What To Avoid in Mature Dating

So what you like is, of course, a personal decision; but always steer clear of anything too good to be true! 

Most dating sites have strict rules about what kinds of photos you can upload, and reporting undesirable behaviour, but it's almost impossible to 100% eradicate fake spammers from using dating sites.

Here are a few red flags of things to keep away from:

  • Anybody who seems too good to be true. That wealthy, attractive toyboy who is into women thirty year's his senior? Probably a fake profile, and a fake photo.
  • People who message you immediately and insistently when you register - usually bots, not authentic singles.
  • Somebody asks you for private information - NEVER disclose any personal details online, particularly financial information. Even if that gorgeous lady needs £500 for the train fare to come and meet you, they'll probably never turn up.

If you keep your wits about you and don't feel pressured to chat to anybody who makes you feel an inkling of suspicion you'll be just fine.

Should you come across anybody who is a fake, be sure to report them to the site admin so they can be removed, and nobody else has to deal with spam messages.

Introducing Yourself on a Senior Date Site

As with any online dating, the most critical factor is to be yourself. Faking it, or exaggerating the truth might make your profile look a little more interesting, but is a bad tactic if you're hoping to find a long-term authentic relationship.

Use a recent photo, talk about the things you love to do every day, and be upfront about what you are looking for from a relationship.

The perfect person is out there, and they will be attracted to you just as you are! Always use your real name (or a nickname if you go by it) - a lot of people think that they should use a pseudonym for online dating, but this can be misleading and very confusing!

You do not have to publicly announce that you're dating, nor do you have to connect your dating profile to any kind of social media. This means that your data, and your date life, are private and you can flirt away without any privacy concerns.

Benefits of Online Dating

Long gone are the days when online dating was only used for sad singles who'd had years of failed dates, or for one-off hook-ups.

You'll find people using online dating to be diverse, vibrant and varied - and it's never been easier to use.

Meeting people online is safe - you're in the comfort of your own home and don't need to set foot out of your door until you've met someone special you would like to meet.

There is a much wider pool of potential dates - if you've met everyone in your neighbourhood, or haven't met anybody new for a while, online dating opens up your world to thousands of people!

You can browse your options. A bad first date is always a disappointment, but online dating takes all the uncertainty out of the equation. You can chat and flirt online as much and for as long as you like until you think you've found somebody you'd love to go on a date with.

There are no more awkward silences. A first date can be nerve-wracking, but if you've spent weeks chatting online, you'll already know a bit about each other, making that first date part of an ongoing conversation. No more panicking about the best icebreakers, or what to do if your date doesn't love dancing as much as you do!

Have a look through senior dating sites, and choose one where you know what the costs are, are confident that the site has plenty of members in your area, and where there is the best chance of finding some romance to spice up your love life!

Lauren Edwards-Fowle
Lauren is a freelance writer passionate about how we develop rewarding experiences, and overcoming the barriers we face to living our best lives. Lauren writes regularly about the modern world of dating, relationships, parenthood, and social dynamics.