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Expert Advice on How To Create Your Perfect eHarmony Dating Profile That Stands Out From the Crowd

December 14, 2022
Expert Advice on How To Create Your Perfect eHarmony Dating Profile That Stands Out From the Crowd

eHarmony is one of the best dating sites, with millions of members across the world and a detailed personality-matching process that aims to find compatible suggestions that meet your requirements.

Even so, your dating profile remains one of the most important aspects of online dating – after all, it’s how that potential match will get a first impression! And regardless of which dating app you're on - whether it's a larger site like eHarmony,, or Elite Singles, or a more niche one - dating profiles are one of the most important aspects of online dating.

The challenge can be that the best dating sites are also more heavily populated, so putting a little time and effort into your eHarmony profile can make a massive difference to your chances of finding that perfect date.

Today we’ve put together some tips and advice from our expert daters to help you improve your existing dating profile, create an amazing new account, or optimise your profile details to generate interest.

Using Photos in Your eHarmony Profile

Tip one is to include several photos rather than one profile picture. Images can tell somebody much more about you than text, and daters who are scrolling through suggested matches are far likelier to stop and pause if they see a great photo!

It’s also a nice opportunity to showcase who you are, the hobbies you love, or the things most important to you without waxing lyrical in your description (let’s face it, most people won’t read lengthy paragraphs).

eHarmony members with a photo gallery receive more interactions than those without, so it’s worth paying attention to your images, not just your profile text:

  • Your primary profile photo should always be a headshot or of your face. Avoid wearing a hat or sunglasses as this can make it hard to see.
  • Always smile! We’re not talking cheesy, overstated grins, but looking approachable and happy is much more attractive than a cool, gloomy shot.
  • Add captions or descriptions to your photos to add context. For example, if you have a picture of you on your travels, say where you were and when the photo was taken. Including less recent images is fine, but adding the date will make your profile feel more authentic.
  • Try and include at least one image with your whole body in – people want to get as much information as possible from your profile, so it’s worth having a diverse range of profile photos.

You can add up to 12 photos to your eHarmony profile, so make the most of it and upload a few snaps of each side of your personality profile to give a well-rounded impression.

It’s best to avoid group pictures (they can be confusing), masses of selfies, or cliched images such as a gym selfie – aim for natural photos and the things you love, and you’ll leave your potential dates wanting to know more.

Writing a Perfect eHarmony Profile

Now, onto the tricky bit! It can be tough to write about yourself, and we know that thousands of people struggle to write with clarity or emotion about who they are.

If in doubt, you can always ask a friend to read over your text and let you know whether it sounds like you, or even ask for input to describe your personality and likes and dislikes if you’re finding it difficult.

Although most eharmony members will pay more attention to images than text, you also need to include enough information to help the eHarmony algorithm provide meaningful matches. If you've answered each question with a couple of words, it won't pick up on your profile for as many reasons.

It’s also much easier to start a conversation with somebody online when you have at least a little inspiration to break the ice, so aim for a good two or three sentences per section rather than huge essays or short answers.

Be as specific as you like – prospective dates will want to know what you love to do, your aspirations and dreams, and what makes you tick! We’d recommend using an online spelling and grammar checker too, so it’s all written correctly and doesn’t contain obvious errors.

Sarcasm, negativity and putting yourself down don't come across well on eHarmony (even if, in person, your tone would make the sentence sound a lot more jokey and humorous!). Avoid swearing or talking about your last relationship – they're big no-nos!

Read also: The Pros & Cons of eHarmony

Easy Tips for Improving Your eHarmony Dating Profile

Do you already have an eHarmony account, but don't seem to get many messages? It's very likely that you need a new strategy or to give your online dating profile a quick overhaul!

Here are some tips that might make a big difference:

  • When you’re writing about things you are passionate about, make it sound like it! Saying you’re passionate about horses, wine, or adventure sports is great, but that isn’t anywhere close to an exciting response. Try talking about why you love things, what they mean to you, and why it’s something that brings joy to your life - remember, happiness is contagious!
  • The questions about leisure time are easy to brush off with a tried and tested answer – 'I like cooking, long walks and cosy evenings' is a staple. But it's also pretty boring, if we're being honest! Again, add details, be genuine, and think about which activities you can imagine enjoying with your new date.
  • Talking about our relationship aspirations can always be challenging. On the one hand, you need to be clear about deal breakers, but on the other, you don't want to be so harsh it puts people off! Don't be afraid to say what you hope to find in a partner, or if you're looking for a long-term commitment – this section is influential and adding more detail will ensure your matches are more relevant.
  • Search online to find good online dating profile examples. Understand why they work, and incorporate these examples into your own dating profile.

Populating your eHarmony dating profile with plenty of information, personality, images, and detail can take time, but you don’t need to finish everything all at once!

To keep your personality profile fresh, we suggest spending a little bit of time every few days checking each section and making it more inviting, descriptive, and exciting.

How to Make Your eHarmony Dating Profile Stand Out

It is possible to get lost in the broad online dating pool on the eHarmony app, so refreshing your profile, adding new responses, expanding on your answers, and adding new images is a great way to attract the algorithm’s attention and increase your compatible matches!

The number one piece of advice is never to be passive – sitting back quietly and hoping a date will come to you is often a non-starter, so it’s important to take control of your online dating experiences.

Now is the time to start if you have never sent a message or initiated a conversation. Even the best dating profile won't be of much use if you don't find a small nugget of courage to make the first move!

Never imagine that you need to have an amazing sense of humour to be interesting – and always be genuine and true to yourself because honesty is the best starting point.

The right way to stand out is to populate your profile with as much personal information as possible without skipping questions or personality tests that are vital for the eHarmony app to recognise which profiles you match with!

Many people overlook questions, skip past the compatibility quiz or enter the most basic details and don't realise why they aren't finding loads of dates. Still, it's this that makes it all but impossible for anybody to get to know who you are and what you're all about.

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What to Include in Your Dating Profile Bio

Finally, let’s touch on that fiddliest aspect of an online dating profile – the bio. It feels like a make-or-break section, with just one paragraph to explain what you’re hoping to find through online dating!

Please don't panic, overthink, or keep rewriting your bio because it's only one part of a great dating profile, and it's probably a lot less critical than you assume.

Try making a list of your biggest relationship aspirations and use those as the basis for your bio. For example:

  • You might be looking for somebody to grow old with and snuggle on cold nights.
  • You could be after an adventure, a travelling companion or somebody who is equally into exploring new places.
  • You might want to have fun and enjoy online dating without any long-term commitment.
  • You could be interested in building a home and a family with your perfect partner.

It doesn’t matter what your reason for online dating is – because you aren’t auditioning, nor should you base your bio on what you think somebody else might want to hear!

Instead, you’re showing yourself as a possible dating partner and should be as honest and truthful as you can. The right date will love you exactly as you are, so there is zero merit in trying to emulate a person or personality, style or characteristic that is any different.

Our last tip is never to rush or assume you’re doing something wrong because you haven’t snagged a dream date just yet.

The typical online dater might spend a few months or even a year or two chatting with potential dates and exploring the online dating opportunities out there. It may be that your profile is already amazing, and you simply need to relax into the experience and let eHarmony do what it does best!

Lauren Edwards-Fowle
Lauren Edwards-Fowle
Lauren is a freelance writer passionate about how we develop rewarding experiences, and overcoming the barriers we face to living our best lives. Lauren writes regularly about the modern world of dating, relationships, parenthood, and social dynamics.